Know that vigilance is one of the most noble stations, high positions, and lofty degrees. It is the station of excellence [ihsan] indicated in the Prophet's saying, may blessings and peace be upon him: 'Excellence is to worship God as if you saw Him, for if you do not see Him, He sees you.’ Each believer has faith that nothing on earth or in heaven is concealed from God, that God is with him wherever he is, and that none of his movements or times of stillness are concealed from Him. But the important thing is that this awareness be permanent and that its results appear, the least of which is that he does nothing, when alone with God, that he would be ashamed of should a man of virtue see him. This is rare, and it eventually leads to that which is rarer still, whereby the servant is totally immersed in God, annihilated in Him and thus rendered unaware of all else, absent from creation through his contemplation of the True King, having arrived at a secure seat in the presence of an Able Sovereign.
Friday, June 10, 2011
Vigilance
Say to it: 'O soul! After death there will be no opportunity to repent, and there will be, after this life, only the Garden or the Fire. Choose, if you will, obedience, the consequence of which is triumph, contentment, immortality in vast gardens, and looking at the Face of God, the Generous, the Beneficent; or else disobedience, the consequence of which is degradation, humiliation, mockery, deprivation, and imprisonment between layers of fire.’ Endeavour to cure your soul with such reminders when it neglects obedience and inclines to rebellion, for they are useful medicines for the heart's diseases.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Effects of the Five Heart Corrupters
Riqaq (Purification of Soul)
Effects of the Five Heart Corrupters
Written by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah,
Madaarij as-Saalikeen, vol. 1, pp. 443-9
Saturday, 05 August 2006
Effects of the Five Heart Corrupters
Written by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah,
Madaarij as-Saalikeen, vol. 1, pp. 443-9
Saturday, 05 August 2006
The Five Heart Corrupters are : Excessive socializing, wishful thinking, attachment to others besides Allaah, eating to one’s fill, and sleep. These five factors are the greatest corrupters of the heart. In this article I will mention the effects that are common to all of them as well as those effects that are unique to each of them.
Know that the heart is on a journey to Allaah, Most Great and Glorious, and to the world of the Hereafter, and [that it is able to] discover the path of truth as well as the faults of the soul and of deeds. Its path is traversed with its light, life, strength, health, determination (‘azm), the soundness of its hearingand sight, as well as the absence of distractions and impediments from it. These five (corrupters) extinguish its light, distort its vision, muffle its hearing, if they do not deafen it, dumfound it, and weaken its powers/strengths altogether. They weaken its health, slacken its drive, halt its decisions, and reverse it (sending it backwards). And if one does not sense it, his heart is dead – as wounding a corpse does not inflict pain. They are impediments that prevent it from achieving its perfection, and prevent it from arriving to what it was created for, and making its pleasure and happiness ibtihaah and its enjoyment in arriving to it.
For there is no pleasure, sweetness, ibtihaaj, or perfection except by knowing Allaah and loving Him, peace in remembrance of Him, happiness and ibtihaaj in being close to Him and desiring to meet Him.[1] This is (the heart’s) early paradise. As there will be no pleasure or success for it in the Hereafter, except by being its neighbour in the abode of pleasure in the early paradise. It has two paradises. It will not enter the second of the two if it did not enter the first.
I heard Shaykhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah – may Allaah have mercy on him – say: “Indeed there is a paradise in this world, whoever doesn’t enter it will not enter the paradise of the Hereafter.”
… Some of those known for their love of Allaah (al-muhibboon) [were reported to have] said: “The truly unfortunate people of this world are those who leave the world without tasting the sweetest thing it contains.” When they were asked what it was, they replied: “The love of Allaah, to feel comfortable in His company, to desire to meet Him, turning towards Him and turning away from everything besides Him.” Or some words similar to that.[2] Everyone who has a heart bears witness to this and knows it as a result of having tasted it. And these five matters cut [the person] off from this, block the heart from it, impede its journey, cause sicknesses and defects for which, if the sick person does not realize it, [destruction] is feared.
The First Corrupter: Frequent Socializing
The effect of frequent socializing is that it fills the heart with the smoke of anfaas of humans until it becomes black, [3] causing it to be scattered, torn apart, worried, upset, and weak. It causes it to carry what it is unable to from mu’nat evil companions and waste what is beneficial for it, by becoming too preoccupied with evil companions and their matters to attend to what is beneficial. (The heart instead is busy with) scattered thoughts in the valleys of their requests and wishes. So what remains of it for Allaah and the life to come?
How many adversities has mixing with people brought and how many blessings has it repelled? [How many] trials has it caused and opportunities disabled, raziyyah caused to fall in baliyyah. Is aafah the downfall of people caused by other than people? Did Aboo Taalib at the time of his death have anything more harmful to himself than evil companions? They remained with him until they blocked him from the one statement that would have guaranteed him eternal pleasure.
This socializing based on love in this world, the fulfillment of desires from others, will change into enmity when the realities become manifest, and some of those who socialized will bite their hands in regret as the Almighty said:
“On the Day when the sinner will bite his hands saying: If only I had taken a way to the Messenger. Woe to me, if only I hadn’t taken so-and-so as a close friend. He misguided me from the Remembrance after it came to me.’ And Satan is forever a deserter of humans in their time of need.” (Soorah al-Furqaan, 25: 27-9)
He also said:
“Close friends on that Day will be foes of each other except the God-fearing.” (Soorah az-Zukhruf, 43: 67)
And He said:
“Indeed what you have taken besides Allaah is only idols. Love between you is only in this world, but on the Day of Resurrection you will disown each other and curse each other and your abode will be the fire and you will have no helpers.” (Soorah al-‘Ankaboot, 29: 25)
That is the state of those who share goals, they love each other as long they help each other to achieve it. But if the goal is cut off, it is followed by regret, sadness and pain, and that love will change into hatred, cursing, blame of one another, and the goals change into unhappiness and punishment, as is witnessed in this life in the states of those who share in khizyah failure, if they are caught and punished. Each supporter of falsehood, friendly regarding it, their mutual love must eventually change into hatred and enmity.
The useful defining principle in the matter of socializing is that one should mix with people in [acts of] goodness like Jumu‘ah, the ‘Eeds, Hajj, learning knowledge, Jihaad, giving advice; and avoid them in [acts of] evil, as well as unnecessary permissible things. If necessity requires mixing with them in evil and avoiding them is not possible, then beware, beware of agreeing with them. And be patient with their harm, for they must harm him if he does not have power or a helper. However, it is harm followed by honor and love for him, respect and praise for him from them, the believers, and from the Lord of the worlds.
Thus, patience with their harm is a better ending and a more praiseworthy conclusion. If necessity requires mixing with them in unnecessary permissible things, he should strive to transform the gathering into one of obedience to Allaah if it is possible, he should encourage himself and strengthen his heart, and not pay attention to the satanic whisper of discouragement which will prevent him from that, that this is riyaa showing off, a love of displaying one’s knowledge and state, etc., he should fight it and seek help from Almighty Allaah and try to affect them as positively as he can. If destiny prevents him from that, he should remove his heart from among them the way a hair is removed from dough. Among them he should be present yet absent, close yet far and asleep yet awake. He should look at them and not see them, hear their words but not be conscious of them, because he has removed his heart from among them and ascended with it to the uppermost hosts (al-mala’il-a‘laa) glorifying [Allaah] around the throne along with the pure celestial spirits. How difficult this is and trying for the souls, [yet] it is easy for whoever Allaah makes it easy. Between a slave and [that state] is that he be truthful to Allaah – Blessed and High – continually seeking refuge in Him, and that he throw his soul on [Allaah’s] doorstep in humility and tareeh. Nothing will help him to do that besides sincere love, continual remembrance of Allaah with the heart and tongue, and avoidance of the remaining four corrupters to be mentioned. He will achieve this except with righteous preparation and strong material from Allaah – Most Great and Glorious – and a truthful conviction, and freedom from attachment to other than Allaah, Most High. And Allaah Almighty knows best.
The Second Corrupter: Riding the Sea of Wishes
It is a sea without shores. It is the sea ridden by the bankrupt of the world. It is said: Wishes are the capital of the bankrupt, and its travel provisions are the promises of Satan, and impossible imaginations and falsehood. The wealth of false wishes and false imaginations continue to play with one who rides them the way that dogs play with a jeefah corpse. They are the supplies of every maheenah disgraced, khaseesah humiliated, low soul, having no conviction to achieve external realities. So it i‘taadat turned away from them with mental wishes. And everyone has it according to his state: From a wisher for power and authority, or travel and international travel, or wealth and valuables, or women and mardaan, The wisher imagines an image of what he desires in his mind, and he succeeds in creating it and takes pleasure in capturing it. While he is in this state he suddenly awakes to find his hand and al-haseer. (p. 446)
It is a sea without shores. It is the sea ridden by the bankrupt of the world. It is said: Wishes are the capital of the bankrupt, and its travel provisions are the promises of Satan, and impossible imaginations and falsehood. The wealth of false wishes and false imaginations continue to play with one who rides them the way that dogs play with a jeefah corpse. They are the supplies of every maheenah disgraced, khaseesah humiliated, low soul, having no conviction to achieve external realities. So it i‘taadat turned away from them with mental wishes. And everyone has it according to his state: From a wisher for power and authority, or travel and international travel, or wealth and valuables, or women and mardaan, The wisher imagines an image of what he desires in his mind, and he succeeds in creating it and takes pleasure in capturing it. While he is in this state he suddenly awakes to find his hand and al-haseer. (p. 446)
The one who has lofty/high conviction himmah his hopes pivot around knowledge and faith and deeds which will bring him closer to his Lord, and yudeenuhu min jiwaarih. These wishes are faith, light and wisdom, while the wishes of those are deception and delusion.
The Prophet (r) praised the one who wishes for good, and made his reward in some things similar to that of the one who actually does it, like the one who says: If I had money I would do as so-and-so does who fears his Lord regarding his wealth, strengthening family ties with it, and extracts from it what is required. He said: “Regarding reward, they are equal.” [4] The Prophet (r) wished in the Farewell Pilgrimage that he was doing Hajj Tamattu‘ and khalla and that he did not take a sacrificial animal with him, [5] as he was doing Hajj Qiraan. So Allaah gave him the reward of Qiraan which he did and the reward of Tamattu‘ which he wished for and combined for him both rewards.
The Third Corrupter: Attachment to Other Than Allaah
This is the absolute worst of the corrupters. There is none more harmful than attachment to other than Allaah, nor more able to cut the heart off from Allaah, and block it from what is beneficial to it and what will bring it true happiness. If a heart becomes attached to other than Allaah, Allaah makes him dependent on what he is attached to and he will be betrayed by it and he will not achieve what he was seeking from Allaah as long as he is attached to other than Allaah and turning to others besides Him. Thus, he will not obtain what he sought from Allaah nor will what he was attached to besides Allaah bring it for him
This is the absolute worst of the corrupters. There is none more harmful than attachment to other than Allaah, nor more able to cut the heart off from Allaah, and block it from what is beneficial to it and what will bring it true happiness. If a heart becomes attached to other than Allaah, Allaah makes him dependent on what he is attached to and he will be betrayed by it and he will not achieve what he was seeking from Allaah as long as he is attached to other than Allaah and turning to others besides Him. Thus, he will not obtain what he sought from Allaah nor will what he was attached to besides Allaah bring it for him
“And they have taken gods besides Allaah that they might give them honor, power and glory. No. But they will deny their worship of them and become opponents to them.” (Soorah Maryam, 19: 81-2)“And they have taken besides Allaah gods hoping that they might be helped. They cannot help them but they will be brought forward as a troop against them.” (Soorah Yaaseen, 36: 74-5)
The person most betrayed is the one who is attached to other than Allaah. For what he missed of benefits, happiness and success is far greater that what he obtained from those to whom he was attached, and it is exposed to disappearance and loss. The example of one attached to other than Allaah is like one seeking shade from the heat and cold in a spider’s web (home), the weakest wahn of homes.
In general, the basis of idolatry and the foundation on which it is built is: Attachment to other than Allaah, and for the one who does so there is condemnation and betrayal, as stated by the Almighty:
“Do not set up with Allaah any other god or you will sit down reproved and forsaken.” (Soorah al-Israa, 17: 22)
“Reproved” without anyone to praise you, “forsaken” without anyone to help you. As some people may be forced while being praised, like one is forced by falsehood, and he could be forsaken while being helped [by Allaah], like one forced and falsehood has gained the upper hand over him, and he could be praised and supported like one becomes established and gains dominion by way of the truth. The idolater attached to other than Allaah, his is the vilest category, neither praised nor supported.
The Fourth Corrupter: Food
The corrupter of the heart is of two types:
One of them is that which corrupts it by itself like the forbidden which are two types:
The corrupter of the heart is of two types:
One of them is that which corrupts it by itself like the forbidden which are two types:
- Forbidden relative to Allaah like carcasses, blood, pork, wild animals that kill with the canine tooth [6]and birds that kill with claws.
- Forbidden relative to Allaah’s slaves, like stolen, maghsoob, kidnapped, and what is taken without the permission of the owner either by force or by shame and blame.
The second is what corrupts as a result of its quantity and its exceeding limits, like wasting permissible things, excessive filling of the stomach, for it makes acts of obedience burdensome and it preoccupies the heart with muzaawalat mu’nat al-batnah chasing after belly desires and trying for it until it captures it. If it captures zafara it he becomes preoccupied with muzaawalat following its tasarruf activities and protecting the self from its harm, and being hurt by its weight, and it strengthens the elements of desire. It paves paths for Satan and expands them, for he moves among humans in the veins. Fasting narrows its passages and closes his paths and filling the stomach paves paths and widens them. Whoever eats a lot, drinks a lot, sleeps a lot and loses a lot. In the famous hadeeth:
“No human fills a container worse than his stomach. Two small portions of food to straighten his backbone are sufficient. If he must [eat more], then let it be a third for food, a third for drink and a third for breathing.” [7]
It is said that [on one occasion] Iblees – may Allaah curse him – met Yahyaa, son of Zakariyyaa – peace be upon them – and Yahyaa asked him: “Did you take anything from me.” He replied: “No, except one night when food was presented to you, I made it so desirable to you that you ate your fill and you went sleep without making your regular supplications.” Yahyaa said: “I swear by Allaah that I will never eat my fill again.” Iblees then said: “As for me, I swear by Allaah that I will never advise another human again.”
The Fifth Corrupter: Excessive Sleep
It deadens the heart, makes the body heavy, wastes time, and gives birth to a lot of negligence and laziness. Some [types] of sleep are extremely disliked, and some are harmful to the body. The best form of sleep is what takes place when there exists a strong need for it. Sleep at the beginning of the night is more praiseworthy and beneficial than at the end of the night, and sleep in the middle of the day is better than at its beginning and end tarafayhi. The closer sleep is to the beginning and ending of the day the less the benefit and the more the harm. [This is] especially the case for sleeping in the after noon (‘asr) and sleeping at the beginning of the day, except for one who stayed awake all night.
It deadens the heart, makes the body heavy, wastes time, and gives birth to a lot of negligence and laziness. Some [types] of sleep are extremely disliked, and some are harmful to the body. The best form of sleep is what takes place when there exists a strong need for it. Sleep at the beginning of the night is more praiseworthy and beneficial than at the end of the night, and sleep in the middle of the day is better than at its beginning and end tarafayhi. The closer sleep is to the beginning and ending of the day the less the benefit and the more the harm. [This is] especially the case for sleeping in the after noon (‘asr) and sleeping at the beginning of the day, except for one who stayed awake all night.
And among the disliked aspects, according to the scholars, is sleep between Salaatul-Fajr and sunrise, for it is a time of special reward.[8] For that time escape, among the saalikeen (travellers), is a great loss maziyyah. Even if they traveled all night they would not allow sitting down from the journey sayr at that time until sunrise, because it is the beginning of the day and its key. [It is] the time for provisions to be sent down [and distributed], the time for obtaining portions and the descent of blessings, and from it the day is established. The ruling regarding the whole day is [based on] the ruling regarding that portion. One should only sleep at that time if one is forced.
In general, the most balanced/moderate (a‘dal) and beneficial form of sleep, is sleep during the first portion of the night and the last sixth of the night. According to medical practitioners, the length of the most balanced form of sleep should be eight hours. In their view, more [sleep] than that or less than that will cause deviation in one’s natural disposition according to it bihasabihi.
Among the forms of sleep that are not beneficial also, is sleep in the first part of the night shortly after sunset until fahmatul-‘ishaa the darkness of ‘Ishaa goes. The Messenger of Allaah (r) used to dislike it.[9] So it is disliked according to the Sharee‘ah and naturally.
As excessive sleep causes these defects aafaat, putting aside sleep and abandoning it causes other major defects like bad temperament, yabsihi dry personality and a warped disposition, as well as drying up of the humors [10] which aid in understanding and work, and it leads to illnesses mutlifah which will prevent one afflicted from benefiting either with his heart or body.
Existence [of the world] was established on the basis of justice (‘adl), so whoever adheres to moderation has grabbed his portion of the confluence of good.
Monday, May 16, 2011
Quran & science by Dr. Zakir Naik.
Some of the quotation mentioned are listed below:
All Quranic Chapters & Verses mentioning the water cycle:
39:21
30:24
23:18
15:22
24:43
30:24
7:57
13:17
25:48-49
35:9
36:34
45:5
50:8-9
56:70
67:30
86:11
Everything is made from water: 21:30
Communities among animals
16:68-69
29:41
27:17-18
Medicinal values of honey: 16:68-69
Circulation of blood and Milk : 16:66
other mentioned Quranic Chapters and verses;
23:12-14
25:3-4
49:13
30:22
17:17
7:19-27
20:121
4:1
31:14
4:34
3:64
112:1-4
6:108
5:32
36:58
5:16
59:23
4:34
2:56
Hadiths mentioned:
Abu-Daud vol 3:4:5
Bukhari vol 8:2:2
Biblical Chapters and Verses mentioned During Q&A
Timothy 1:2:9
Corinthians 1:5:7-11
Newspaper Articles mentioned:
Sunday Times issue of 9th March,2009
Sunday Times issue in 2005.
Acts and Legal documents mentioned:
1817- Act allowing women to own private property.
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Sunday, April 24, 2011
Sunday, March 27, 2011
Yourself To Blame
by
Mayme White Miller
If things go bad for you
And make you a bit ashamed
Often you will find out that
You have yourself to blame
Swiftly we ran to mischief
And then the bad luck came
Why do we fault others?
We have ourselves to blame
Whatever happens to us,
Here is what we say
"Had it not been for so-and-so
Things wouldn't have gone that way."
And if you are short of friends,
I'll tell you what to do
Make an examination,
You'll find the faults in you...
Your the captain of your ship,
So agree with the same
If you travel downward
You have yourself to blame.
by
Mayme White Miller
If things go bad for you
And make you a bit ashamed
Often you will find out that
You have yourself to blame
Swiftly we ran to mischief
And then the bad luck came
Why do we fault others?
We have ourselves to blame
Whatever happens to us,
Here is what we say
"Had it not been for so-and-so
Things wouldn't have gone that way."
And if you are short of friends,
I'll tell you what to do
Make an examination,
You'll find the faults in you...
Your the captain of your ship,
So agree with the same
If you travel downward
You have yourself to blame.
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Sunday, February 13, 2011
I Aint Much Baby--But I'm All I Got!
"Compared with what we ought to be, we are only half awake. We are making use of only a small part of our pysical and mental resources. Stating the thing broadly, the human individual thus lives far within his limits. He posseses powers of various sorts which he habitually fails to use." by William James - Psychologist and Philosopher.
Living far within his limits. What will make any human constantly expand and approach his limits?
Through empirical testing by scholars of human behaviour it is proven without doubt that "praise" spurs people into success. I can name many examples of people whom through sincere praise of their work have achieved epic success but I will leave that part to you.
If birds can do it then you sure as hell can.
B. F Skinner carried out the pavlovian experiment and discovered that rewarding a good act leads to behavioral modification. Constant punishment on the other hand will inevitably retard growth and cause one to live far within his limits. So next time you want to start a good habit or learn a new skill, try praising every little accomplish and rewarding yourself. Making the latter act a habit is the secret to rejuvenating ones energy hence making the task of conquering the impossible seem easy.
Living far within his limits. What will make any human constantly expand and approach his limits?
Through empirical testing by scholars of human behaviour it is proven without doubt that "praise" spurs people into success. I can name many examples of people whom through sincere praise of their work have achieved epic success but I will leave that part to you.
If birds can do it then you sure as hell can.
B. F Skinner carried out the pavlovian experiment and discovered that rewarding a good act leads to behavioral modification. Constant punishment on the other hand will inevitably retard growth and cause one to live far within his limits. So next time you want to start a good habit or learn a new skill, try praising every little accomplish and rewarding yourself. Making the latter act a habit is the secret to rejuvenating ones energy hence making the task of conquering the impossible seem easy.
Friday, February 11, 2011
Sunday, January 23, 2011
How to Pass A Lie Detector Test!(when you know you..)
Lie detectors are known as polygraphs and they are used to detect lies. Some of these tricks mentioned might seem shady but they just might come in handy someday. Anyways, Enjoy!
Leave your comments in the section below.
Leave your comments in the section below.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
A little Motivation!
Its not always how you start but how you finish that makes the REAL difference in anything. Mashaallah!
Saturday, January 15, 2011
I got it from my Daddy. Plan and Execute.
Obama Jr : "It runs in the family. Have you met my father? Cause honestly it comes easy to us. I mean success, yeah we all bosses in our family. Always been like that."
Obama Jr : " Seriously, If we Plan, uhm we definitely Execute"
Obama Jr : " Seriously, If we Plan, uhm we definitely Execute"
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Mr. Nice Guy.
"I shall walk this way but once, therefore, whatever good I may do, let me do it now, for I shall never walk this way again."
— Unknown Greek Poet
— Unknown Greek Poet
Monday, January 10, 2011
Spark the flame of Tragedy. (Tragedy Part 1)
These Crack-heads Destroyed Lives. As you can see in the video they seem to be having a blast as they prepare to light a fire that will blaze and burn for 20 yrs. And its still blazing and burning.
After you watch this video, ask yourself "what has changed in the Leadership of the above country?"
Leave your comments in the comment section below.
After you watch this video, ask yourself "what has changed in the Leadership of the above country?"
Leave your comments in the comment section below.
shackles of the mind.
Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips (born 7 January 1947) is a contemporary Islamic scholar, teacher, speaker, and author, resident in Qatar.[1][2] He appears on Peace TV, which is a 24-hour Islamic satellite TV channel broadcasted to many countries around the world.
Dr. Philips was born January 7, 1947[3] in Jamaica, but grew up in Canada, where he converted to Islam in 1972. He received his B.A. degree from the Islamic University of Medina and his M.A. in Aqeedah (Islamic Theology) from the King Saud University inRiyadh, then to the University of Wales, UK, where he completed a PhD in Islamic Theology in the early 90’s.[4] Philips comes from a family of educators, as both his parents were teachers and his grandfather was a Church Minister and Bible scholar.He has not entered the USA since 1995.
Dr. Philips was born January 7, 1947[3] in Jamaica, but grew up in Canada, where he converted to Islam in 1972. He received his B.A. degree from the Islamic University of Medina and his M.A. in Aqeedah (Islamic Theology) from the King Saud University inRiyadh, then to the University of Wales, UK, where he completed a PhD in Islamic Theology in the early 90’s.[4] Philips comes from a family of educators, as both his parents were teachers and his grandfather was a Church Minister and Bible scholar.He has not entered the USA since 1995.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Gabar Haloo Doono Nigerian Version- Nigeria's funniest man.
Leave your comments about the movie in the comment section below. More coming SOON. Thx for watching.
Nigerian Movie! Extremely Funny
this the second part one.(1-2)
These guys gotta be the most quick and creative fellas on the planet. Talk about getting their way with the least amount of resources. Enjoy A beg! You go laugh o!p.s there is a part 3 to this movie if you find please post it on youtube or any other place on the net and let us know. thx
Ted William's Homeless to Big shot in a week! Enjoy.
This is my third blog post of the night and it sure is the best. If this story doesn't move you then you must be a cadaver. Enjoy! Post your comments below. Thanks.
I guess fish like Worms?
I often went fishing up in Duluth, MN during the summer. Personally I am very fond of cheesecakes and steak, but I have found that for some strange reason, fish prefer worms. So when I went fishing, I didn't bait the hook with a cheesecake and steak. Rather, I dangled a worm or a grasshopper in front of the fish and said: "Wouldn't you like to have that?"
Give or tell people what you want them to hear and BAM, they like you and they have an urge to please you and give you what you want from them.
Give or tell people what you want them to hear and BAM, they like you and they have an urge to please you and give you what you want from them.
Thursday, January 6, 2011
There it goes again!
I take my sit and a couple minutes into the lecture, I notice something. Something that I do regularly and chances are you do it too. I start looking for students doing it. I see one, then another, then another and right there another one! Thats when I made a note to self to get to the bottom of this. "I gotta google this!" I said.
"Why do people jiggle or shake their feet/leg?" As of now I have yet to get any scientific reason(s) but lots of people on the net have put forward their own personal reason(s) why they "think" they "shake their leg!"
Please help me settle this on going ignorance about why we shake our legs by posting your answer in the comment section below. The more scientific your answer the better.
"Why do people jiggle or shake their feet/leg?" As of now I have yet to get any scientific reason(s) but lots of people on the net have put forward their own personal reason(s) why they "think" they "shake their leg!"
Please help me settle this on going ignorance about why we shake our legs by posting your answer in the comment section below. The more scientific your answer the better.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Father Forgets!
Listen, son: I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead. I have stolen into your room alone. Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside.
There are the things I was thinking, son: I had been cross to you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel. I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes. I called out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor.
At breakfast I found fault, too. You spilled things. You gulped down your food. You put your elbows on the table. You spread butter too thick on your bread. And as you started off to play and I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called, ‘Goodbye, Daddy!’ and I frowned, and said in reply, ‘Hold your shoulders back!’
Then it began all over again in the late afternoon. As I came up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles. There were holes in your stockings. I humiliated you before your boyfriends by marching you ahead of me to the house. Stockings were expensive – and if you had to buy them you would be more careful! Imagine that, son, from a father!
Do you remember, later, when I was reading in the library, how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes? When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption, you hesitated at the door. ‘What is it you want?’ I snapped.You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart and which even neglect could not wither. And then you were gone, pattering up the stairs.
Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me. What has habit been doing to me? The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding – this was my reward to you for being a boy. It was not that I did not love you; it was that I expected too much of youth. I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.
And there was so much that was good and fine and true in your character. The little heart of you was as big as the dawn itself over the wide hills. This was shown by your spontaneous impulse to rush in and kiss me good night. Nothing else matters tonight, son. I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt there, ashamed!
It is a feeble atonement; I know you would not understand these things if I told them to you during your waking hours. But tomorrow I will be a real daddy! I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a ritual: ‘He is nothing but a boy – a little boy!’
I am afraid I have visualized you as a man. Yet as I see you now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot, I see that you are still a baby. Yesterday you were in your mother’s arms, your head on her shoulder. I have asked too much, too much.
- W. Livingston Larned
Personal favorite thanks to Dale Carnegie.
Sunday, January 2, 2011
Just A thought.
Emotional Stability
The dictionary defines emotional stability as "a mental state of calmness and composure." Warren Buffet in a recent interview with Forbes mentioned that one of the factors behind his success has been emotional stability. He praises this state of being such that he claims that its one of the distinguishing factors between him and all the investors who deem their line of work hard to conquer. Mr. Buffet on the other hand has conquered investing to a level where no one has come close in the recorded past. The riches he has amassed are stone cold evidence to the wonders emotional stability can bring. Therefore this leads me to ponder, is emotional stability something attainable by the average Joe or is it something that comes natural to a selected few?
The answer to the latter questions can be found in looking at personality traits. OCEAN is the abbreviation for the big five personality traits namely, openness,conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Our area of concern is the latter of the bunch "neuroticism" also known as Emotional stability. Neuroticism is the tendency to experience negative emotions, such as anger, anxiety, or depression. Those who easily experience the above list of emotions mostly succumb to mental disorders such as depression. Those who score experience or control these emotions score low on neuroticism hence they enjoy life and are generally happy people.
Emotional stability would therefore be a trait achievable by merely being attentive when experiencing negative emotions and making a habit of not doing what the little voice in your head says. When in this situation always walk away if possible and handle matters when in a composed mood. Emotional stability is a habitual trait, being religiously inclined also helps to conquer negative emotions. Personally I propose Islam cause it clearly defines a way of life that will automatically help the believer deal with negative emotions. For example the prophet of Islam says that a believer should never make any decisions when experiencing anger. The reasons not to are obvious.
Reverting to Warren Buffet's statement that Emotional stability was a significant trait in his business dealings, his inclination being that he always sort out facts about potential businesses he sort out to buy, these facts he believed in and stuck with, no matter what was the "hot" commodity of trade at that moment. Eventually he said, he would always sell when the market was offering a price he liked, hence securing a guaranteed profit.
The dictionary defines emotional stability as "a mental state of calmness and composure." Warren Buffet in a recent interview with Forbes mentioned that one of the factors behind his success has been emotional stability. He praises this state of being such that he claims that its one of the distinguishing factors between him and all the investors who deem their line of work hard to conquer. Mr. Buffet on the other hand has conquered investing to a level where no one has come close in the recorded past. The riches he has amassed are stone cold evidence to the wonders emotional stability can bring. Therefore this leads me to ponder, is emotional stability something attainable by the average Joe or is it something that comes natural to a selected few?
The answer to the latter questions can be found in looking at personality traits. OCEAN is the abbreviation for the big five personality traits namely, openness,conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Our area of concern is the latter of the bunch "neuroticism" also known as Emotional stability. Neuroticism is the tendency to experience negative emotions, such as anger, anxiety, or depression. Those who easily experience the above list of emotions mostly succumb to mental disorders such as depression. Those who score experience or control these emotions score low on neuroticism hence they enjoy life and are generally happy people.
Emotional stability would therefore be a trait achievable by merely being attentive when experiencing negative emotions and making a habit of not doing what the little voice in your head says. When in this situation always walk away if possible and handle matters when in a composed mood. Emotional stability is a habitual trait, being religiously inclined also helps to conquer negative emotions. Personally I propose Islam cause it clearly defines a way of life that will automatically help the believer deal with negative emotions. For example the prophet of Islam says that a believer should never make any decisions when experiencing anger. The reasons not to are obvious.
Reverting to Warren Buffet's statement that Emotional stability was a significant trait in his business dealings, his inclination being that he always sort out facts about potential businesses he sort out to buy, these facts he believed in and stuck with, no matter what was the "hot" commodity of trade at that moment. Eventually he said, he would always sell when the market was offering a price he liked, hence securing a guaranteed profit.
Saturday, January 1, 2011
Just A thought.
What a way to begin this new Gregorian year, it's 2011 people! It's been 11 years since the turn of the millennium, wow! This is the birth of Just A Thought(JAT) blogs. Just like a new born baby there will be a lot of infantile errors at the beggining of this blog, please note all errors in the review section below.
Another new thing am embarking on this new year besides starting a blog is jogging in the morning. I have just started reading Dr. Richard Restak's book titled "Think Smart" and in this informative and inspiring book about the human brain and its wonders and how to get the most out of it, Restak mentions that exercise is necessary to harboring a well functioning brain. I reccomend Think Smart as a must read to people of all ages. The information found in the 300 pages of this book is worth while.
Another new thing am embarking on this new year besides starting a blog is jogging in the morning. I have just started reading Dr. Richard Restak's book titled "Think Smart" and in this informative and inspiring book about the human brain and its wonders and how to get the most out of it, Restak mentions that exercise is necessary to harboring a well functioning brain. I reccomend Think Smart as a must read to people of all ages. The information found in the 300 pages of this book is worth while.
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